Posts Tagged ‘cop marriage’
Chp 7: Your Support System – Rules of Interacting with Other Wives part 2
Last week’s blog has some tips on helping you have a support system with other police wives. Here are some more rules of engagement for you. Rule Number Three: They…
Read MoreChp 6: Short v. Long Term Thinking
Short-Term vs. Long-Term Thinking Pursuing happiness is short-term thinking. It concentrates on right now. Right now I’d be very happy if I had a big piece of German chocolate cake.…
Read MoreChp 5: Game Face, His Coping Mechanisms
His Coping Mechanisms Your cop will have his ways to deal with stress. You may not be crazy about some of them, but, if it’s working, you need to let…
Read MoreChp 5: Game Face-The Hero at Home
The Hero at Home Because this book covers different aspects of law enforcement marriage, it probably seems like my entire existence revolves around the fact that he is a cop.…
Read MoreChp 5: Game Face, Understanding his moods
In his book Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement Officers, Dr. Kevin Gilmartin describes the highs and lows of what he calls the hypervigilance rollercoaster. To be vigilant is to stay…
Read MoreChp 5: Game Face: Understanding Your Cop’s Motivation
Understanding His Motivation War is seductive. There’s something inside me that lures me to the mission. I look at what’s goin’ down and know that I have to do what…
Read MoreCh. 4: Code Four Communication-Selfishness v. Listening to Understand
Selfishness vs. Listen with the Desire To Understand This last communication killer is so common it’s actually part of our culture. We’re encouraged to look out for ourselves, to be…
Read MoreCh 4: Code Four Communication: Avoiding Unkindness
Unkindness vs. Setting Speech Boundaries As a law enforcement family, there will always be pressures as we looked at in the first chapter. Unfortunately the easiest place to release that…
Read MoreCh 4: Code Four Communication: Unforgiveness kills communication
Unforgiveness vs. Keeping Short Account When our unspoken expectations are not met, it is very easy to develop resentment. We take it personally. It’s an affront! But that really isn’t…
Read MoreCh 4: Code Four Communication: It takes time
Go Easy; It Takes Time I once heard a couple who had been married for over forty years say, “We didn’t really get each other until we’d gotten the first…
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