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Chp 6: Thick Skin, Soft Heart: How To Deal Emotionally
I don’t wear the badge on a uniform. But when you’re married to an officer, you wear the shadow of their badge on your heart. Pat, wife of a CHP…
Read MoreChp 5: Game Face, His Coping Mechanisms
His Coping Mechanisms Your cop will have his ways to deal with stress. You may not be crazy about some of them, but, if it’s working, you need to let…
Read MoreChp 5: Game Face-The Hero at Home
The Hero at Home Because this book covers different aspects of law enforcement marriage, it probably seems like my entire existence revolves around the fact that he is a cop.…
Read MoreChp 5: Game Face-Understanding his moods before and after shifts
Before and after Shifts Many times this hypervigilance rollercoaster will begin just before he leaves for work. He’s putting on his game face. For Brent and I, the time before…
Read MoreChp 5: Game Face, Understanding his moods
In his book Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement Officers, Dr. Kevin Gilmartin describes the highs and lows of what he calls the hypervigilance rollercoaster. To be vigilant is to stay…
Read MoreChp 5: Game Face: Understanding Your Cop’s Motivation
Understanding His Motivation War is seductive. There’s something inside me that lures me to the mission. I look at what’s goin’ down and know that I have to do what…
Read MoreThe Dash
It’s there on the headstones, barely noticeable. A birth date; a death date. And a little mark in between. The dash – so simple, so seemingly insignificant. Yet it represents…
Read MoreFEARLESS 2013
Chief and I were on Interstate 5 somewhere in central California when he asked me a question. It was one of those moments. Like when you see smoke rising from…
Read MoreSPEAK 2012
My, how 2012 has unfolded. At this time last year I had a book in hand and a trip overseas planned. I had a dream – but would not have…
Read MoreChristmas Thoughts for the Hurting
Christmas Thoughts for the Hurting Last year Christmas was very difficult for our family. In the midst of the culmination of a dream – the release of my first published…
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